My husband often jokes it took him 10 years to convince me to have a child. The reality is closer to seven years – and counting two unfortunate miscarriages – but the fact remains I was 35 when we conceived, making mine an unfortunately termed “geriatric pregnancy”.
Would I have opted to have a child earlier had I known for sure I was going to be a biological mum? It’s a tricky question to unpack.
Young and rested
On the one hand, being a young mum is often equated to having more energy to take care of a newborn and toddler. And certainly a tremendous amount of stamina – both physical and mental – is required to function on but a few hours of sleep in the first few months, maybe years; as well as to run behind unnervingly swift first-time crawlers.
Then come parks, play areas and play dates (nothing cuts calories more effectively than overseeing a roomful of toddlers); and slotting in school runs and summer camp schedules.
Conceiving in one’s twenties is also slightly less likely to lead to miscarriages and other complications compared to when a woman is in her thirties (one in 10 versus two in 10), according to myriad reports from the likes of the Mayo and Cleveland clinics as well as the NHS in the UK.
Finally, as a friend who had three children before 30 keeps reminding me, she and her husband will be “free to travel and chill” at the relatively young age of 49, once their children have flown the nest.
Older and wiser
Having studied until the age of 25 like many of my peers, I only got a “real” job at 26, got married at 27 (still too early I think, but that’s a column for another time) and moved from Mumbai to Dubai at 28.
Accordingly, the first few years after wedded bliss were spent counting fils and racking up travel bills as we explored the many regions so easily accessible from the UAE. Changing nappies with a wrinkly-faced grimace rather than a youthful grin at 3am has nothing on swimming by the moonlight in Istanbul or catching the sunrise over Mount Kazbek.
The early thirties were spent firming up careers that would enable us to better manage hefty tuition fees, doctor’s visits and trips back home to see the grandparents. It also afforded a chance to mature in the marriage, find our feet and work out the kinks that arise when two people attempt to make a life together.
A quick survey of my mum friends reveals the majority believe they would not have opted to have a baby beforehand, for reasons quite similar to mine. The one who wishes she'd had a baby earlier than her 33 years, said: "As I see it, I established emotional maturity, a sense of security and the readiness to have a child at 30 itself. Three years late makes a difference, in terms of a career reset, the energy to keep up with a newborn and the time it took my body to recover."
In my case, however, when our child finally came along, I was a far more mature and grounded person and parent than I would have been a decade earlier – though certainly not as able to cope with 20-hour days.
And, as my friend notes, the physical recovery time was probably far longer. A slower metabolism is no friend of the "mommy pooch", I'll tell you that.
Also real is the guilt, be it about time not spent or activities not ticked off. But that might well have been the case at any age and stage for a working mum keen to hold the key to her own life.
So, do I wish I had more energy at the end of each day and over weekends to deal with the alarming number of children's birthday parties and WhatsApp parent groups we seem to be part of? Definitely.
But do I think the energy expended on building my life up to this point was a total waste? Definitely not.
Who was Alfred Nobel?
The Nobel Prize was created by wealthy Swedish chemist and entrepreneur Alfred Nobel.
- In his will he dictated that the bulk of his estate should be used to fund "prizes to those who, during the preceding year, have conferred the greatest benefit to humankind".
- Nobel is best known as the inventor of dynamite, but also wrote poetry and drama and could speak Russian, French, English and German by the age of 17. The five original prize categories reflect the interests closest to his heart.
- Nobel died in 1896 but it took until 1901, following a legal battle over his will, before the first prizes were awarded.
COMPANY PROFILE
Name: HyperSpace
Started: 2020
Founders: Alexander Heller, Rama Allen and Desi Gonzalez
Based: Dubai, UAE
Sector: Entertainment
Number of staff: 210
Investment raised: $75 million from investors including Galaxy Interactive, Riyadh Season, Sega Ventures and Apis Venture Partners
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Goalkeepers: Jordan Pickford, Nick Pope, Aaron Ramsdale
Defenders: Trent Alexander-Arnold, Conor Coady, Marc Guehi, Reece James, Harry Maguire, Tyrone Mings, Luke Shaw, John Stones, Ben White
Midfielders: Jude Bellingham, Conor Gallagher, Mason Mount, Jordan Henderson, Declan Rice, James Ward-Prowse
Forwards: Tammy Abraham, Phil Foden, Jack Grealish, Harry Kane, Bukayo Saka, Emile Smith Rowe, Raheem Sterling
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Favourite quote: We must become the change we want to see, by Mahatma Gandhi.
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Ruwais timeline
1971 Abu Dhabi National Oil Company established
1980 Ruwais Housing Complex built, located 10 kilometres away from industrial plants
1982 120,000 bpd capacity Ruwais refinery complex officially inaugurated by the founder of the UAE Sheikh Zayed
1984 Second phase of Ruwais Housing Complex built. Today the 7,000-unit complex houses some 24,000 people.
1985 The refinery is expanded with the commissioning of a 27,000 b/d hydro cracker complex
2009 Plans announced to build $1.2 billion fertilizer plant in Ruwais, producing urea
2010 Adnoc awards $10bn contracts for expansion of Ruwais refinery, to double capacity from 415,000 bpd
2014 Ruwais 261-outlet shopping mall opens
2014 Production starts at newly expanded Ruwais refinery, providing jet fuel and diesel and allowing the UAE to be self-sufficient for petrol supplies
2014 Etihad Rail begins transportation of sulphur from Shah and Habshan to Ruwais for export
2017 Aldar Academies to operate Adnoc’s schools including in Ruwais from September. Eight schools operate in total within the housing complex.
2018 Adnoc announces plans to invest $3.1 billion on upgrading its Ruwais refinery
2018 NMC Healthcare selected to manage operations of Ruwais Hospital
2018 Adnoc announces new downstream strategy at event in Abu Dhabi on May 13
Source: The National
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Company name: Farmin
Date started: March 2019
Founder: Dr Ali Al Hammadi
Based: Abu Dhabi
Sector: AgriTech
Initial investment: None to date
Partners/Incubators: UAE Space Agency/Krypto Labs
Company info
Company name: Entrupy
Co-founders: Vidyuth Srinivasan, co-founder/chief executive, Ashlesh Sharma, co-founder/chief technology officer, Lakshmi Subramanian, co-founder/chief scientist
Based: New York, New York
Sector/About: Entrupy is a hardware-enabled SaaS company whose mission is to protect businesses, borders and consumers from transactions involving counterfeit goods.
Initial investment/Investors: Entrupy secured a $2.6m Series A funding round in 2017. The round was led by Tokyo-based Digital Garage and Daiwa Securities Group's jointly established venture arm, DG Lab Fund I Investment Limited Partnership, along with Zach Coelius.
Total customers: Entrupy’s customers include hundreds of secondary resellers, marketplaces and other retail organisations around the world. They are also testing with shipping companies as well as customs agencies to stop fake items from reaching the market in the first place.
Tailors and retailers miss out on back-to-school rush
Tailors and retailers across the city said it was an ominous start to what is usually a busy season for sales.
With many parents opting to continue home learning for their children, the usual rush to buy school uniforms was muted this year.
“So far we have taken about 70 to 80 orders for items like shirts and trousers,” said Vikram Attrai, manager at Stallion Bespoke Tailors in Dubai.
“Last year in the same period we had about 200 orders and lots of demand.
“We custom fit uniform pieces and use materials such as cotton, wool and cashmere.
“Depending on size, a white shirt with logo is priced at about Dh100 to Dh150 and shorts, trousers, skirts and dresses cost between Dh150 to Dh250 a piece.”
A spokesman for Threads, a uniform shop based in Times Square Centre Dubai, said customer footfall had slowed down dramatically over the past few months.
“Now parents have the option to keep children doing online learning they don’t need uniforms so it has quietened down.”
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Results
UAE beat Nigeria by five wickets
Hong Kong beat Canada by 32 runs
Friday fixtures
10am, Tolerance Oval, Abu Dhabi – Ireland v Jersey
7.30pm, Zayed Cricket Stadium, Abu Dhabi – Canada v Oman
RESULTS
5pm: Wathba Stallions Cup Maiden (PA) Dh 70,000 (Dirt) 1,600m
Winner: Samau Xmnsor, Abdul Aziz Al Balushi (jockey), Ibrahim Al Hadhrami (trainer)
5.30pm: Maiden (PA) Dh 70,000 (D) 1,600m
Winner: Ottoman, Szczepan Mazur, Abdallah Al Hammadi
6pm: Maiden (PA) Dh 70,000 (D) 1,800m
Winner: Sharkh, Patrick Cosgrave, Helal Al Alawi
6.30pm: Handicap (PA) Dh 85,000 (D) 1,800m
Winner: Yaraa, Fernando Jara, Majed Al Jahouri
7pm: Handicap (PA) Dh 70,000 (D) 2,000m
Winner: Maaly Al Reef, Bernardo Pinheiro, Abdallah Al Hammadi
7.30pm: Maiden (PA) Dh 70,000 (D) 1,000m
Winner: Jinjal, Fabrice Veron, Ahmed Al Shemaili
8pm: Handicap (PA) Dh 70,000 (D) 1,000m
Winner: Al Sail, Tadhg O’Shea, Ernst Oertel
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