During the speed dating, women are asked to take a table each, as the men make their way around. Photo: Mingle AUH
During the speed dating, women are asked to take a table each, as the men make their way around. Photo: Mingle AUH
During the speed dating, women are asked to take a table each, as the men make their way around. Photo: Mingle AUH
During the speed dating, women are asked to take a table each, as the men make their way around. Photo: Mingle AUH

Why I prefer laid-back socialising to time-restricted speed dating


Aarti Jhurani
  • English
  • Arabic

“Ladies, please find yourselves a table. You’ll have three minutes with each gentleman before moving on to the next.” Three minutes? I think to myself. Isn’t that too little time to judge whether I’d want to keep in touch with a person, let alone date them? Turns out, in a few cases, it's two minutes too long.

I am at the first iteration of Mingle Abu Dhabi. The capital’s latest social event series invites people to come together to socialise and even try their luck at speed-dating if they feel up to it. Hosted at Ma Buckley’s in Souk Qaryat Al Beri, the location benefits from stunning vistas and provides the perfect backdrop for lingering in the al fresco area. On a breezy evening, my friend and I find a spot to enjoy the view and get ready for what comes next.

There are about 100 people in attendance at the event – different nationalities, different age groups ranging from the early twenties to sixties, and different body types. Most are dressed to the nines, hoping to make a good first impression. Some hang around in groups, others walk up to strangers and a few lurk in corners.

My friend and I start chatting to the group of women next to us. Most of them met earlier that evening. Conversations flow easily, and many admit that it is their first time. Like me, they are both excited and nervous.

Soon, the optional speed-dating part of the evening is announced, with about 40 of the 100 people taking part. The women are asked to take a table each as the men who choose to participate make their way around.

There are about 100 people in attendance that evening – different nationalities and different age groups. Photo: Mingle AUH
There are about 100 people in attendance that evening – different nationalities and different age groups. Photo: Mingle AUH

Typically, I find it a bit hard to start conversations with new people, so I am not quite sure how this will go. However, it is not as awkward as I expect it to be. I speak to about 10 men, or at least attempt to – the venue is pretty loud and most people struggle to hear each other well.

At table number 17, where I am sat, most conversations start with standard questions – What’s your name? What do you do? How long have you been here? – but soon lose steam. One candidate announces himself with a cheesy and inappropriate pickup line (hard pass!). One older gentleman decides to use the three minutes to lecture me about dating a year after my divorce. “It's too soon,” he offers.

While a few others are easy to converse with, no one makes a lasting impression. After that initial round, however, people seem more relaxed and strike up more organic conversations. One participant tells me he's not expecting to find “the one”, but rather wants to make business contacts. Having attended a few Mingle Dubai events, he says he’s even made a few friends along the way in addition to networking.

There are some, myself included, who are not impressed by the three-minute concept. While a quick conversation is a good way to gauge interest in a person, it can add pressure to make a good first impression, whether or not you're attracted to the person in front of you. Also, unlike dating apps, you cannot instantly bypass someone who is not your type. Or worse, someone who makes you uncomfortable, and are instead forced to ride it out until it’s time for them to move on.

The socialising aspect of the event works very well, though. I may not have found any success in speed-dating, but I had a great time interacting with people from different backgrounds – a physics teacher from Lebanon, an IT whizz from France, a hospitality manager from Mongolia and a lawyer from Greece – whom I probably wouldn't have crossed paths with under normal circumstances. These connections I came away with are likely to last longer than a mere three minutes.

MISSION: IMPOSSIBLE – FINAL RECKONING

Director: Christopher McQuarrie

Starring: Tom Cruise, Hayley Atwell, Simon Pegg

Rating: 4/5

The biogs

Name: Zinah Madi

Occupation: Co-founder of Dots and links

Nationality: Syrian

Family: Married, Mother of Tala, 18, Sharif, 14, Kareem, 2

Favourite Quote: “There is only one way to succeed in anything, and that is to give it everything.”

 

Name: Razan Nabulsi

Occupation: Co-founder of Dots and Links

Nationality: Jordanian

Family: Married, Mother of Yahya, 3.5

Favourite Quote: A Chinese proverb that says: “Be not afraid of moving slowly, be afraid only of standing still.”

Desert Warrior

Starring: Anthony Mackie, Aiysha Hart, Ben Kingsley

Director: Rupert Wyatt

Rating: 3/5

Stormy seas

Weather warnings show that Storm Eunice is soon to make landfall. The videographer and I are scrambling to return to the other side of the Channel before it does. As we race to the port of Calais, I see miles of wire fencing topped with barbed wire all around it, a silent ‘Keep Out’ sign for those who, unlike us, aren’t lucky enough to have the right to move freely and safely across borders.

We set sail on a giant ferry whose length dwarfs the dinghies migrants use by nearly a 100 times. Despite the windy rain lashing at the portholes, we arrive safely in Dover; grateful but acutely aware of the miserable conditions the people we’ve left behind are in and of the privilege of choice. 

Director: Laxman Utekar

Cast: Vicky Kaushal, Akshaye Khanna, Diana Penty, Vineet Kumar Singh, Rashmika Mandanna

Rating: 1/5

If you go

Flights

Emirates flies from Dubai to Phnom Penh with a stop in Yangon from Dh3,075, and Etihad flies from Abu Dhabi to Phnom Penh with its partner Bangkok Airlines from Dh2,763. These trips take about nine hours each and both include taxes. From there, a road transfer takes at least four hours; airlines including KC Airlines (www.kcairlines.com) offer quick connecting flights from Phnom Penh to Sihanoukville from about $100 (Dh367) return including taxes. Air Asia, Malindo Air and Malaysian Airlines fly direct from Kuala Lumpur to Sihanoukville from $54 each way. Next year, direct flights are due to launch between Bangkok and Sihanoukville, which will cut the journey time by a third.

The stay

Rooms at Alila Villas Koh Russey (www.alilahotels.com/ kohrussey) cost from $385 per night including taxes.

TEACHERS' PAY - WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

Pay varies significantly depending on the school, its rating and the curriculum. Here's a rough guide as of January 2021:

- top end schools tend to pay Dh16,000-17,000 a month - plus a monthly housing allowance of up to Dh6,000. These tend to be British curriculum schools rated 'outstanding' or 'very good', followed by American schools

- average salary across curriculums and skill levels is about Dh10,000, recruiters say

- it is becoming more common for schools to provide accommodation, sometimes in an apartment block with other teachers, rather than hand teachers a cash housing allowance

- some strong performing schools have cut back on salaries since the pandemic began, sometimes offering Dh16,000 including the housing allowance, which reflects the slump in rental costs, and sheer demand for jobs

- maths and science teachers are most in demand and some schools will pay up to Dh3,000 more than other teachers in recognition of their technical skills

- at the other end of the market, teachers in some Indian schools, where fees are lower and competition among applicants is intense, can be paid as low as Dh3,000 per month

- in Indian schools, it has also become common for teachers to share residential accommodation, living in a block with colleagues

Avengers: Endgame

Directors: Anthony Russo, Joe Russo

Starring: Robert Downey Jr, Chris Evans, Scarlett Johansson, Chris Hemsworth, Josh Brolin

4/5 stars 

Cricket World Cup League 2

UAE squad

Rahul Chopra (captain), Aayan Afzal Khan, Ali Naseer, Aryansh Sharma, Basil Hameed, Dhruv Parashar, Junaid Siddique, Muhammad Farooq, Muhammad Jawadullah, Muhammad Waseem, Omid Rahman, Rahul Bhatia, Tanish Suri, Vishnu Sukumaran, Vriitya Aravind

Fixtures

Friday, November 1 – Oman v UAE
Sunday, November 3 – UAE v Netherlands
Thursday, November 7 – UAE v Oman
Saturday, November 9 – Netherlands v UAE

WHAT IS A BLACK HOLE?

1. Black holes are objects whose gravity is so strong not even light can escape their pull

2. They can be created when massive stars collapse under their own weight

3. Large black holes can also be formed when smaller ones collide and merge

4. The biggest black holes lurk at the centre of many galaxies, including our own

5. Astronomers believe that when the universe was very young, black holes affected how galaxies formed

LA LIGA FIXTURES

Thursday (All UAE kick-off times)

Sevilla v Real Betis (midnight)

Friday

Granada v Real Betis (9.30pm)

Valencia v Levante (midnight)

Saturday

Espanyol v Alaves (4pm)

Celta Vigo v Villarreal (7pm)

Leganes v Real Valladolid (9.30pm)

Mallorca v Barcelona (midnight)

Sunday

Atletic Bilbao v Atletico Madrid (4pm)

Real Madrid v Eibar (9.30pm)

Real Sociedad v Osasuna (midnight)

Trump v Khan

2016: Feud begins after Khan criticised Trump’s proposed Muslim travel ban to US

2017: Trump criticises Khan’s ‘no reason to be alarmed’ response to London Bridge terror attacks

2019: Trump calls Khan a “stone cold loser” before first state visit

2019: Trump tweets about “Khan’s Londonistan”, calling him “a national disgrace”

2022:  Khan’s office attributes rise in Islamophobic abuse against the major to hostility stoked during Trump’s presidency

July 2025 During a golfing trip to Scotland, Trump calls Khan “a nasty person”

Sept 2025 Trump blames Khan for London’s “stabbings and the dirt and the filth”.

Dec 2025 Trump suggests migrants got Khan elected, calls him a “horrible, vicious, disgusting mayor”

The five pillars of Islam

1. Fasting 

2. Prayer 

3. Hajj 

4. Shahada 

5. Zakat 

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United States

2.

China

3.

UAE

4.

Japan

5

Norway

6.

Canada

7.

Singapore

8.

Australia

9.

Saudi Arabia

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South Korea

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Spare

Profile

Company name: Spare

Started: March 2018

Co-founders: Dalal Alrayes and Saurabh Shah

Based: UAE

Sector: FinTech

Investment: Own savings. Going for first round of fund-raising in March 2019

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  3. Tissue processed in a high-tech facility
  4. Tissue re-implanted at a time of the patient’s choosing
  5. Full hormone production regained within 4-6 months
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