I never thought of myself as the marrying type.I never fantasised about the pouffy white wedding dress, I never had a preference on what the menu did and did not contain and I never tried to catch the bouquet at weddings. In fact, I was the one conveniently "in the bathroom" whenever it was time for the bouquet toss. Forging a career, seeking fame and fortune, seeing the world, buying shoes - those were my interests. It never occurred to me that I could have both: a full and satisfying life hand-in-hand with a wonderful marriage.
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Some of my past sentiments regarding weddings and my indifference to them came in handy: an elaborate, colour-co-ordinated wedding for some 160 guests came together in under three weeks, and the wedding dress was found after approximately 27 minutes of shopping. Certainly, I suffered my fair share of "bridezilla" meltdowns, but it was always because I could hardly wait to get to the part that comes after the wedding and the honeymoon. I was surprisingly eager to embark on my adventure of marriage, and not stiff with anxiety as I had always thought I would be should the day ever come.
Why? Because I am one of those lucky few who got to marry their absolute best friend. That, I believe, is the key to a successful marriage. It may seem presumptuous of me, this claim to be an expert on marriage after just a few months as a newlywed, but my unwavering optimism, coupled with the fact that I am happier than I ever thought possible, are both contributing factors towards the confidence behind my words.
More than a romance, more than an adventure, more than a relationship, yet certainly all these things, marriage is a partnership; a meeting of minds that truly just get one another. Mr T gets me. He knows when an ice cream is the only solution to all my problems. He understands my irritability when I come home after a long day at work, and gives me those 10 minutes to snarl and sulk until I feel calm again. He is willing to listen when I ramble on for 30 minutes on the changes and developments behind Scarlett O'Hara's character in Gone with the Wind, and then does his research the next day before e-mailing me his opinion on her motivations. He downloads the e-book version of a novel I just can't seem to find in a single bookstore without me ever mentioning my futile search.
He gets my quirks and annoyances and fears and secret joys, he records them and memorises them and uses them to prove to me that I have found the perfect companion for this adventure we call life, and it's the most incredible feeling in the world to get to share the adventure with someone who just wants to make you happy, because that is his source of joy. And you get that, because you are right smack in the middle of the same boat.
So really, I'm a lucky girl, despite the burn scars on hands from learning to cook, moments of post-nuptial depression following an overly-hyped wedding and wider hips from way too much caramel popcorn consumed at way too many movie theatres - a favourite pastime of Mr T's and mine. Look at it this way. Out of more than a billion men in this world, I found the one who always remembers to keep the toilet seat down. In fact, thanks to him, I'm never going to understand the generalisation I have heard all my life about forgetful men and errant toilet seats and irritated women.
This is what winning the lottery must feel like.
A State of Passion
Directors: Carol Mansour and Muna Khalidi
Stars: Dr Ghassan Abu-Sittah
Rating: 4/5
The specs
Engine: 3.0-litre six-cylinder turbo
Power: 398hp from 5,250rpm
Torque: 580Nm at 1,900-4,800rpm
Transmission: Eight-speed auto
Fuel economy, combined: 6.5L/100km
On sale: December
Price: From Dh330,000 (estimate)
Singham Again
Director: Rohit Shetty
Stars: Ajay Devgn, Kareena Kapoor Khan, Ranveer Singh, Akshay Kumar, Tiger Shroff, Deepika Padukone
Rating: 3/5
The specs
AT4 Ultimate, as tested
Engine: 6.2-litre V8
Power: 420hp
Torque: 623Nm
Transmission: 10-speed automatic
Price: From Dh330,800 (Elevation: Dh236,400; AT4: Dh286,800; Denali: Dh345,800)
On sale: Now
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Secret Nation: The Hidden Armenians of Turkey
Avedis Hadjian, (IB Tauris)
Points tally
1. Australia 52; 2. New Zealand 44; 3. South Africa 36; 4. Sri Lanka 35; 5. UAE 27; 6. India 27; 7. England 26; 8. Singapore 8; 9. Malaysia 3
The specs
Engine: 1.5-litre turbo
Power: 181hp
Torque: 230Nm
Transmission: 6-speed automatic
Starting price: Dh79,000
On sale: Now
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- Technology expert in robotics and automation: Dh20,000 to Dh40,000
- Energy engineer: Dh25,000 to Dh30,000
- Production engineer: Dh30,000 to Dh40,000
- Data-driven supply chain management professional: Dh30,000 to Dh50,000
- HR leader: Dh40,000 to Dh60,000
- Engineering leader: Dh30,000 to Dh55,000
- Project manager: Dh55,000 to Dh65,000
- Senior reservoir engineer: Dh40,000 to Dh55,000
- Senior drilling engineer: Dh38,000 to Dh46,000
- Senior process engineer: Dh28,000 to Dh38,000
- Senior maintenance engineer: Dh22,000 to Dh34,000
- Field engineer: Dh6,500 to Dh7,500
- Field supervisor: Dh9,000 to Dh12,000
- Field operator: Dh5,000 to Dh7,000
No Shame
Lily Allen
(Parlophone)
Europe’s rearming plan
- Suspend strict budget rules to allow member countries to step up defence spending
- Create new "instrument" providing €150 billion of loans to member countries for defence investment
- Use the existing EU budget to direct more funds towards defence-related investment
- Engage the bloc's European Investment Bank to drop limits on lending to defence firms
- Create a savings and investments union to help companies access capital
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Name: Kumulus Water
Started: 2021
Founders: Iheb Triki and Mohamed Ali Abid
Based: Tunisia
Sector: Water technology
Number of staff: 22
Investment raised: $4 million
Formula Middle East Calendar (Formula Regional and Formula 4)
Round 1: January 17-19, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 2: January 22-23, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 3: February 7-9, Dubai Autodrome – Dubai
Round 4: February 14-16, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 5: February 25-27, Jeddah Corniche Circuit – Saudi Arabia
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