American Mother begins with a scene that most parents would find unimaginable: a woman prepares to come face to face with the person involved in the murder of her child.
Horror is woven through the mundane as she chooses her outfit and jewellery while trying to decide how she will address one of the men responsible for her son's death – should she call him by his first name or use honourifics? How will she look him in the eye?
Before leaving, she kneels at her bedside, taking strength from the prayer of St Francis of Assisi: Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Diane Foley needed “a lot of prayer” at that time, she said at a recent event in Washington. “Time, God and a lot of prayer” was what helped her the most after her son James, a freelance journalist, was executed by ISIS in Syria in August 2014.
The new book, written by Irish novelist Colum McCann with Ms Foley, is a meditation on trauma and grief, memory and mercy, and the stories that make up a person's life.
In the book, the reader accompanies a parent on a journey through deepest grief as she forges a complex path of forgiveness, compassion, strength and a fight for change.
It is a story of an unmoored youth who eventually discovers a love of journalism and telling the stories not often told.
It is a story of a man's captivity, gleaned from fellow prisoners who were ultimately released.
But above all it is a story of a mother's desperate fight for answers and then justice after her beloved son's death.
“Scientists say that the world is held together with atoms and, of course, it is,” the book states. “But it is also held together with stories.”
Meeting the kidnapper
American Mother describes the hours-long sessions between Ms Foley and Alexanda Kotey – one of the “ISIS Beatles” convicted of involvement in the deaths of a number of people, including James Foley – in October 2021 and around the end of the trial in 2022 inside a Virginia courthouse.
“He is guilty, he admits, entirely guilty of the counts as they were presented to him – conspiracy to murder, hostage-taking resulting in death and providing material support to the Islamic State [ISIS],” the book says.
The footage of Foley’s beheading shocked the world and became the most horrifying example of ISIS's reign of terror in parts of the Middle East.
While Kotey, who is serving life in prison, says he was not present at Foley's execution, he admits to beating him twice over the course of his two years in captivity.
“He was not present at the execution. He had not pulled the knife across her son’s throat. He had not filmed the moment in the desert. He had not been there when her son’s severed head was placed upon his back. He was a soldier of Islam,” the book says of Kotey.
Though Kotey apologises to her, Ms Foley notes that he was “only sorry for what she went through, not sorry for what he has done”.
She adds, however, that “listening is the quiet soul of storytelling” and that she decided to meet Kotey to honour her son.
“Sometimes what we listen to is what we do not necessarily want to hear,” the book says. “But we have to hear it anyway.”
At the National Press Club event in Washington, which also featured the husband and two daughters of Alsu Kurmasheva, the Russian-American journalist detained last year, she told the audience: “I know Jim would have wanted me not to be afraid, and to hear his [Kotey's] side of the story. But, as a mum, I wanted him to hear who Jim was and to tell our side of the story.
“Alexanda, in a way, was a vulnerable kid who lost his dad as a child, grew up in poverty and was bullied. He was very susceptible to radicalisation. So, some of what he ended up doing kind of made sense.”
'Our government failed us totally'
During her son's detention and after his death, Ms Foley developed a deep mistrust of the US government.
“We spent months depending on our government to help us bring Jim home when they never planned to. That was their policy,” she said in Washington, writing in the book that “there was no single piece of absolute truth coming our way” after the kidnapping.
“I wanted people to know our government failed us totally. They really considered Jim and the other Americans collateral damage.
“I thought 'that's unacceptable'. It made me mad, to be honest. And it's OK to have some anger, I think, when things are unjust.”
In the book, she speaks about how the government was “afraid that the terrorists would claim it as a victory, and nothing stings more in the American psyche than a public loss”.
“I thought as a nation we could do better,” she said. That feeling gave her energy to try to find the answer to the question: “What can be done better?”
Since 2014, more than 100 US citizens captured abroad have returned home.
But back then, Ms Foley said, “the US had nothing” – no US hostage enterprise, nobody whose job was to help its citizens return home.
The Foley family were not even officially informed about the death – they found out through the media.
President Barack Obama – for whom their son had campaigned in 2008 – called them three days after his death was announced.
“I had allowed a portion of bitterness to creep in,” she says in the book. “His administration had always said that Jim was their highest priority, but I felt that if that were true then his captivity wouldn't have lasted two months, let alone two years.”
In the 10 years since her son's death, she has worked to help and support other families whose loved ones have been wrongfully detained.
Ms Foley's search for justice began immediately after her son's death. She decided to quit her job and visit Washington to raise awareness and ask for help.
The anger that can be felt throughout the book is levelled not only at those who killed her son but also at the US government.
Ms Foley describes how only one person was “full transparent” with the family about what was happening – “there would be no rescue mission to save the hostages, no foreign country would be asked to intervene” and that they “might face federal prosecution” if they “tried to raise a ransom to bring Jim home”.
Murdered journalist's mother grateful as US charges ISIS 'Beatles' – video
“The sad truth was that I don’t think our government had the will, or the desire, and that truth blocked Jim’s way home,” she says in the book.
“I later learnt that Jim was never the administration’s highest priority. Nor was any American hostage anywhere in the world, at any time, in any condition.”
But things are different now, she told the audience in Washington.
“Families are not going to be threatened [now],” she said.
“At least we have a family engaged with people who are compassionate, a team of incredibly caring people who will listen and be honest.”
She also created the non-profit James Foley Legacy Foundation, which advocates freeing Americans held hostage abroad.
“Families need to make noise and show up,” she told the audience in Washington. “And that’s why we try to support in any way we can.”
Writing about her son’s story was “therapeutic”, Ms Foley said, and felt like a confession because “stories help us to remember”.
“And I hope it helps others to do their part.”
List of alleged parties
- May 15 2020: Boris Johnson is said to have attended a Downing Street pizza party
- 27 Nov 2020: PM gives speech at leaving do for his staff
- Dec 10 2020: Staff party held by then-education secretary Gavin Williamson
- Dec 13 2020: Mr Johnson and his then-fiancee Carrie Symonds throw a flat party
- Dec 14 2020: Shaun Bailey holds staff party at Conservative Party headquarters
- Dec 15 2020: PM takes part in a staff quiz
- Dec 18 2020: Downing Street Christmas party
PROFILE BOX
Company name: Overwrite.ai
Founder: Ayman Alashkar
Started: Established in 2020
Based: Dubai International Financial Centre, Dubai
Sector: PropTech
Initial investment: Self-funded by founder
Funding stage: Seed funding, in talks with angel investors
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Winner Bella Fever, Dane O’Neill (jockey), Mike de Kock (trainer).
7.05pm Handicap $135,000 (T) 1,400m
Winner Woven, Harry Bentley, David Simcock.
7.40pm UAE 2000 Guineas Group Three $250,000 (Dirt) 1,600m
Winner Fore Left, William Buick, Doug O’Neill.
8.15pm Dubai Sprint Listed Handicap $175,000 (T) 1,200m
Winner Rusumaat, Dane O’Neill, Musabah Al Muhairi.
8.50pm Al Maktoum Challenge Round-2 Group Two $450,000 (D) 1,900m
Winner Benbatl, Christophe Soumillon, Saeed bin Suroor.
9.25pm Handicap $135,000 (T) 1,800m
Winner Art Du Val, William Buick, Charlie Appleby.
10pm Handicap $135,000 (T) 1,400m
Winner Beyond Reason, William Buick, Charlie Appleby.
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Moon Music
Artist: Coldplay
Label: Parlophone/Atlantic
Number of tracks: 10
Rating: 3/5
UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
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At a glance
Global events: Much of the UK’s economic woes were blamed on “increased global uncertainty”, which can be interpreted as the economic impact of the Ukraine war and the uncertainty over Donald Trump’s tariffs.
Growth forecasts: Cut for 2025 from 2 per cent to 1 per cent. The OBR watchdog also estimated inflation will average 3.2 per cent this year
Welfare: Universal credit health element cut by 50 per cent and frozen for new claimants, building on cuts to the disability and incapacity bill set out earlier this month
Spending cuts: Overall day-to day-spending across government cut by £6.1bn in 2029-30
Tax evasion: Steps to crack down on tax evasion to raise “£6.5bn per year” for the public purse
Defence: New high-tech weaponry, upgrading HM Naval Base in Portsmouth
Housing: Housebuilding to reach its highest in 40 years, with planning reforms helping generate an extra £3.4bn for public finances
UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
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The National
4AD
Scores
Oman 109-3 in 18.4 overs (Aqib Ilyas 45 not out, Aamir Kaleem 27) beat UAE 108-9 in 20 overs (Usman 27, Mustafa 24, Fayyaz 3-16, Bilal 3-23)
Anghami
Started: December 2011
Co-founders: Elie Habib, Eddy Maroun
Based: Beirut and Dubai
Sector: Entertainment
Size: 85 employees
Stage: Series C
Investors: MEVP, du, Mobily, MBC, Samena Capital
How much do leading UAE’s UK curriculum schools charge for Year 6?
- Nord Anglia International School (Dubai) – Dh85,032
- Kings School Al Barsha (Dubai) – Dh71,905
- Brighton College Abu Dhabi - Dh68,560
- Jumeirah English Speaking School (Dubai) – Dh59,728
- Gems Wellington International School – Dubai Branch – Dh58,488
- The British School Al Khubairat (Abu Dhabi) - Dh54,170
- Dubai English Speaking School – Dh51,269
*Annual tuition fees covering the 2024/2025 academic year
WOMAN AND CHILD
Director: Saeed Roustaee
Starring: Parinaz Izadyar, Payman Maadi
Rating: 4/5
Jetour T1 specs
Engine: 2-litre turbocharged
Power: 254hp
Torque: 390Nm
Price: From Dh126,000
Available: Now
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Company profile: buybackbazaar.com
Name: buybackbazaar.com
Started: January 2018
Founder(s): Pishu Ganglani and Ricky Husaini
Based: Dubai
Sector: FinTech, micro finance
Initial investment: $1 million
RESULTS
ATP China Open
G Dimitrov (BUL x3) bt R Bautista Agut (ESP x5)
7-6, 4-6, 6-2
R Nadal (ESP x1) bt J Isner (USA x6)
6-4, 7-6
WTA China Open
S Halep (ROU x2) bt D Kasatkina (RUS)
6-2, 6-1
J Ostapenko (LAT x9) bt S Cirstea (ROU)
6-4, 6-4
ATP Japan Open
D Schwartzman (ARG x8) bt S Johnson (USA)
6-0, 7-5
D Goffin (BEL x4) bt R Gasquet (FRA)
7-5, 6-2
M Cilic (CRO x1) bt R Harrison (USA)
6-2, 6-0
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Warlight,
Michael Ondaatje, Knopf
The specs
Engine: four-litre V6 and 3.5-litre V6 twin-turbo
Transmission: six-speed and 10-speed
Power: 271 and 409 horsepower
Torque: 385 and 650Nm
Price: from Dh229,900 to Dh355,000
UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
Generation Start-up: Awok company profile
Started: 2013
Founder: Ulugbek Yuldashev
Sector: e-commerce
Size: 600 plus
Stage: still in talks with VCs
Principal Investors: self-financed by founder
The biog
Mission to Seafarers is one of the largest port-based welfare operators in the world.
It provided services to around 200 ports across 50 countries.
They also provide port chaplains to help them deliver professional welfare services.
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Killing of Qassem Suleimani
Opening day UAE Premiership fixtures, Friday, September 22:
- Dubai Sports City Eagles v Dubai Exiles
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MOUNTAINHEAD REVIEW
Starring: Ramy Youssef, Steve Carell, Jason Schwartzman
Director: Jesse Armstrong
Rating: 3.5/5
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Countries so far: 85
Flights: 149
Steps: 3.78 million
Calories: 220,000
Floors climbed: 2,000
Donations: GPB37,300
Prostate checks: 5
Blisters: 15
Bumps on the head: 2
Dog bites: 1
England squad
Joe Root (captain), Alastair Cook, Keaton Jennings, Gary Ballance, Jonny Bairstow (wicketkeeper), Ben Stokes (vice-captain), Moeen Ali, Liam Dawson, Toby Roland-Jones, Stuart Broad, Mark Wood, James Anderson.