When Covid-19 broke out this year, millions of people had to work from home full-time.
This meant more time spent with partners, families and children.
While the increased contact time led to some marital bonds emerging stronger, for others it magnified existing tensions and fault lines.
Marriage counsellors and therapists said they had been working overtime since the pandemic began, as more people sought professional help to get through tough times.
“While some have become closer, others struggled and developed deeper feelings of loneliness and isolation,” said Tanya Dharamshi, clinical director at the Priory Wellbeing Centre in Dubai.
We laugh about it now but I would seriously question any couple that says it's been easy
She said financial difficulties brought on by the pandemic led many people to work longer hours, with no clear boundaries between work and home life.
“The most common issue we’ve seen is a feeling of claustrophobia and frustration for many couples who have spent considerably more time together, often trying to balance working from home with home schooling, housework and chores,” said Ms Dharamshi.
“Married couples may find their partners are often working long hours," she said.
"The quality time they once had to air concerns and effectively problem solve also becomes drained, leaving them feeling burdened and isolated.”
She said many suffered from a lack of personal space and dedicated “me time”.
“As a result, the pressure on many couples has been immense and this has naturally led to conflict and feelings of resentment,” Ms Dharamshi said.
Oliver and Maggie Baxter live in Dubai and have been married for two-and-a-half years.
The couple had a six-week-old baby when the UAE closed its borders, schools and offices in March.
They said the pandemic brought them closer together, made them reassess their priorities and gave them valuable time with their now 10-month-old son.
“We got closer during that time due to our evolving new roles as parents and how much we relied on each other,” said Ms Baxter, an education consultant.
“Oliver and I co-ordinated who got to sleep when, and working from home saved commuting time for us as well.”
She said they were surprised at how well they did as a couple during the stay-home orders considering their usual social calendar pre-pandemic.
“We are known to brunch almost weekly but this situation really did allow us to slow down, focus on what’s important, and relish in the time with our new son,” Ms Baxter said.
But the stress of the pandemic and increased home time has not been easy for everyone.
Some couples admitted they struggled with being cooped up with each other at home for long periods of time.
“As husband and wife, your goal is always to grow closer to one another,” said Abbas Fazal, a pilot in Dubai married to wife Nastasija for nine years.
“But it’s a whole different ball game and mindset needed when it comes to spending all day together inside a confined space.”
He said the pandemic has been a “trying time” for them partly because, as an airline pilot, they were used to him being away for a couple of days every week.
“This was something that both of us agreed on and the time apart allowed us to grow and miss each other,” said Mr Fazal.
However, that quickly changed when planes were grounded and flights ceased.
“All of a sudden, I was home for longer periods of time with the occasional quick flight followed by a mandatory quarantine period at home,” said Mr Fazal.
“This started to drastically change the dynamics of our relationship.”
He said small, agreeable faults that were normally tolerated between him and his wife began to spiral into bigger issues.
“Each room became a territorial space and sometimes a ceasefire was nowhere in sight,” said Mr Fazal.
“I also started to realise the quirks about my wife that drove me into the dreaded silent mode.”
Eventually though, he said, the pandemic and all those hours at home strengthened their bond.
“It took a while and it took lots of effort from both of us to make it through,” Mr Fazal said. “But knowing that we survived a pandemic while staying at home, I honestly believe no further crisis can break us going forward.
"We laugh about it now but I would seriously question any couple that says it’s been easy.”
THREE POSSIBLE REPLACEMENTS
Khalfan Mubarak
The Al Jazira playmaker has for some time been tipped for stardom within UAE football, with Quique Sanchez Flores, his former manager at Al Ahli, once labelling him a “genius”. He was only 17. Now 23, Mubarak has developed into a crafty supplier of chances, evidenced by his seven assists in six league matches this season. Still to display his class at international level, though.
Rayan Yaslam
The Al Ain attacking midfielder has become a regular starter for his club in the past 15 months. Yaslam, 23, is a tidy and intelligent player, technically proficient with an eye for opening up defences. Developed while alongside Abdulrahman in the Al Ain first-team and has progressed well since manager Zoran Mamic’s arrival. However, made his UAE debut only last December.
Ismail Matar
The Al Wahda forward is revered by teammates and a key contributor to the squad. At 35, his best days are behind him, but Matar is incredibly experienced and an example to his colleagues. His ability to cope with tournament football is a concern, though, despite Matar beginning the season well. Not a like-for-like replacement, although the system could be adjusted to suit.
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Company Profile
Founders: Tamara Hachem and Yazid Erman
Based: Dubai
Launched: September 2019
Sector: health technology
Stage: seed
Investors: Oman Technology Fund, angel investor and grants from Sharjah's Sheraa and Ma'an Abu Dhabi
Tributes from the UAE's personal finance community
• Sebastien Aguilar, who heads SimplyFI.org, a non-profit community where people learn to invest Bogleheads’ style
“It is thanks to Jack Bogle’s work that this community exists and thanks to his work that many investors now get the full benefits of long term, buy and hold stock market investing.
Compared to the industry, investing using the common sense approach of a Boglehead saves a lot in costs and guarantees higher returns than the average actively managed fund over the long term.
From a personal perspective, learning how to invest using Bogle’s approach was a turning point in my life. I quickly realised there was no point chasing returns and paying expensive advisers or platforms. Once money is taken care off, you can work on what truly matters, such as family, relationships or other projects. I owe Jack Bogle for that.”
• Sam Instone, director of financial advisory firm AES International
"Thought to have saved investors over a trillion dollars, Jack Bogle’s ideas truly changed the way the world invests. Shaped by his own personal experiences, his philosophy and basic rules for investors challenged the status quo of a self-interested global industry and eventually prevailed. Loathed by many big companies and commission-driven salespeople, he has transformed the way well-informed investors and professional advisers make decisions."
• Demos Kyprianou, a board member of SimplyFI.org
"Jack Bogle for me was a rebel, a revolutionary who changed the industry and gave the little guy like me, a chance. He was also a mentor who inspired me to take the leap and take control of my own finances."
• Steve Cronin, founder of DeadSimpleSaving.com
"Obsessed with reducing fees, Jack Bogle structured Vanguard to be owned by its clients – that way the priority would be fee minimisation for clients rather than profit maximisation for the company.
His real gift to us has been the ability to invest in the stock market (buy and hold for the long term) rather than be forced to speculate (try to make profits in the shorter term) or even worse have others speculate on our behalf.
Bogle has given countless investors the ability to get on with their life while growing their wealth in the background as fast as possible. The Financial Independence movement would barely exist without this."
• Zach Holz, who blogs about financial independence at The Happiest Teacher
"Jack Bogle was one of the greatest forces for wealth democratisation the world has ever seen. He allowed people a way to be free from the parasitical "financial advisers" whose only real concern are the fat fees they get from selling you over-complicated "products" that have caused millions of people all around the world real harm.”
• Tuan Phan, a board member of SimplyFI.org
"In an industry that’s synonymous with greed, Jack Bogle was a lone wolf, swimming against the tide. When others were incentivised to enrich themselves, he stood by the ‘fiduciary’ standard – something that is badly needed in the financial industry of the UAE."
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Label: Parlophone/Atlantic
Number of tracks: 10
Rating: 3/5
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Who's who in Yemen conflict
Houthis: Iran-backed rebels who occupy Sanaa and run unrecognised government
Yemeni government: Exiled government in Aden led by eight-member Presidential Leadership Council
Southern Transitional Council: Faction in Yemeni government that seeks autonomy for the south
Habrish 'rebels': Tribal-backed forces feuding with STC over control of oil in government territory
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Other acts on the Jazz Garden bill
Sharrie Williams
The American singer is hugely respected in blues circles due to her passionate vocals and songwriting. Born and raised in Michigan, Williams began recording and touring as a teenage gospel singer. Her career took off with the blues band The Wiseguys. Such was the acclaim of their live shows that they toured throughout Europe and in Africa. As a solo artist, Williams has also collaborated with the likes of the late Dizzy Gillespie, Van Morrison and Mavis Staples.
Lin Rountree
An accomplished smooth jazz artist who blends his chilled approach with R‘n’B. Trained at the Duke Ellington School of the Arts in Washington, DC, Rountree formed his own band in 2004. He has also recorded with the likes of Kem, Dwele and Conya Doss. He comes to Dubai on the back of his new single Pass The Groove, from his forthcoming 2018 album Stronger Still, which may follow his five previous solo albums in cracking the top 10 of the US jazz charts.
Anita Williams
Dubai-based singer Anita Williams will open the night with a set of covers and swing, jazz and blues standards that made her an in-demand singer across the emirate. The Irish singer has been performing in Dubai since 2008 at venues such as MusicHall and Voda Bar. Her Jazz Garden appearance is career highlight as she will use the event to perform the original song Big Blue Eyes, the single from her debut solo album, due for release soon.
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Fuel consumption: 6.9L/100km
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War 2
Director: Ayan Mukerji
Stars: Hrithik Roshan, NTR, Kiara Advani, Ashutosh Rana
Rating: 2/5
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