MUSCAT // Whenever she visits her in-laws, Pamela Al Subhi takes care to wear a longer skirt than usual and a headscarf. Her in-laws live in the rural town of Al Hamra, in Al Dakhliya region, which is one of the most conservative areas of Oman.
Though both her father and mother in-law are “nice” to her, the people in the neighbourhood look at her with scorn every time she walks in the streets with her Omani husband. Born Pamela De Santos in Portugal, the 31-year-old changed her last name to “fit in" with the local culture in an attempt to be accepted. But her efforts appear to be futile.
"I don't think I will be ever accepted in my husband's hometown. We have been married only for seven months and we already feel the stress. I am alright with my in-laws but they also feel the pressure from their relatives for having their son married to a European," Mrs Al Subhi told The National.
Cultural differences pose a big challenge for foreigners married to Omanis and according to the official statistics, about 35 per cent of such marriages in the past 10 years have ended up in divorce.
For the couples that stay together, life is a constant challenge as they defy conservatism in Omani society while trying to live in harmony with both cultures.
Rosy Garcia, 43, from the Philippines, married her Omani husband in 2010 and they have two children. The couple met in 2009, two years after Ms Garcia came to work in the sultanate as a housemaid. Her life has been far from “rosy” since then.
“I will always be the housemaid to my in-laws though I never worked in their houses. They look down at me just because I was once a domestic help. I try to please them for the sake of my husband but I don’t think I will ever match their expectations,” Ms Garcia said.
Marriage counsellors say the law does not help couples in mixed marriages either. Omanis wishing to marry foreign nationals need to satisfy many conditions before they can get permission from the authorities. After that, the foreign spouse must wait 10 years to be eligible for Omani nationality. Some have been waiting even longer.
“The government is not encouraging mixed marriages. For those who get a permit to get married, the foreign spouse will wait for a long time to get a passport and that puts extra pressure, apart from the cultural factor, on the couples,” said Dr Habsia Al Naabi, a marriage counsellor.
Five years ago, representatives on Oman’s elected body, the Shura Council, discussed the issue of a growing number of men choosing non-Omani women as their wives. They argued in a televised debate in 2012 that the trend of "mixed marriages" was leading to a demographic imbalance in the sultanate, as a rising number of Omani women were unable to find husbands.
In 2013, the Shura Council recommended the government set up a marriage fund to give 4,000 rials (Dh39,510) each to young Omani men — especially those earning less than 800 rials a month — who marry Omani women.
However, the government has yet to approve the fund, mainly because of falling revenue from oil, with prices plummeting from $115 per barrel in June 2014 to about $48 per barrel now.
“The Shura Council wanted to help young Omanis on lower income with the wedding costs. Weddings in Oman cost a lot of money. It is the parents of the brides who normally demand to have lavish receptions and big dowries. This is one of the reasons Omani men find foreign women cheaper to get married to than Omani women,” Dr Al Naabi said.
She said the average cost of a wedding was about 12,000 rials.
Another woman facing turmoil in her marriage is Moroccan-born Samia Zakaria, 36, who has two children with her Omani husband. But she also has an 11-year old son from a previous marriage who has foreign status even though he was born in Oman.
"Since the father of my other two children is Omani, they have been granted Omani citizenship. But my child from the first marriage will never get citizenship since his father was non-Omani. That means I have three children who do not all have the same nationality," Mrs Zakaria told The National.
She and her son live in Oman with Moroccan passports.
“Which means, when he is 18, he needs to find a job or leave the country," Mrs Zakaria said. " Where would he go? His father died three years ago. It is something which gives me a constant headache.”
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- Create a savings and investments union to help companies access capital
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Multitasking pays off for money goals
Tackling money goals one at a time cost financial literacy expert Barbara O'Neill at least $1 million.
That's how much Ms O'Neill, a distinguished professor at Rutgers University in the US, figures she lost by starting saving for retirement only after she had created an emergency fund, bought a car with cash and purchased a home.
"I tell students that eventually, 30 years later, I hit the million-dollar mark, but I could've had $2 million," Ms O'Neill says.
Too often, financial experts say, people want to attack their money goals one at a time: "As soon as I pay off my credit card debt, then I'll start saving for a home," or, "As soon as I pay off my student loan debt, then I'll start saving for retirement"."
People do not realise how costly the words "as soon as" can be. Paying off debt is a worthy goal, but it should not come at the expense of other goals, particularly saving for retirement. The sooner money is contributed, the longer it can benefit from compounded returns. Compounded returns are when your investment gains earn their own gains, which can dramatically increase your balances over time.
"By putting off saving for the future, you are really inhibiting yourself from benefiting from that wonderful magic," says Kimberly Zimmerman Rand , an accredited financial counsellor and principal at Dragonfly Financial Solutions in Boston. "If you can start saving today ... you are going to have a lot more five years from now than if you decide to pay off debt for three years and start saving in year four."
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Mercer, the investment consulting arm of US services company Marsh & McLennan, expects its wealth division to at least double its assets under management (AUM) in the Middle East as wealth in the region continues to grow despite economic headwinds, a company official said.
Mercer Wealth, which globally has $160 billion in AUM, plans to boost its AUM in the region to $2-$3bn in the next 2-3 years from the present $1bn, said Yasir AbuShaban, a Dubai-based principal with Mercer Wealth.
“Within the next two to three years, we are looking at reaching $2 to $3 billion as a conservative estimate and we do see an opportunity to do so,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Mercer does not directly make investments, but allocates clients’ money they have discretion to, to professional asset managers. They also provide advice to clients.
“We have buying power. We can negotiate on their (client’s) behalf with asset managers to provide them lower fees than they otherwise would have to get on their own,” he added.
Mercer Wealth’s clients include sovereign wealth funds, family offices, and insurance companies among others.
From its office in Dubai, Mercer also looks after Africa, India and Turkey, where they also see opportunity for growth.
Wealth creation in Middle East and Africa (MEA) grew 8.5 per cent to $8.1 trillion last year from $7.5tn in 2015, higher than last year’s global average of 6 per cent and the second-highest growth in a region after Asia-Pacific which grew 9.9 per cent, according to consultancy Boston Consulting Group (BCG). In the region, where wealth grew just 1.9 per cent in 2015 compared with 2014, a pickup in oil prices has helped in wealth generation.
BCG is forecasting MEA wealth will rise to $12tn by 2021, growing at an annual average of 8 per cent.
Drivers of wealth generation in the region will be split evenly between new wealth creation and growth of performance of existing assets, according to BCG.
Another general trend in the region is clients’ looking for a comprehensive approach to investing, according to Mr AbuShaban.
“Institutional investors or some of the families are seeing a slowdown in the available capital they have to invest and in that sense they are looking at optimizing the way they manage their portfolios and making sure they are not investing haphazardly and different parts of their investment are working together,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Some clients also have a higher appetite for risk, given the low interest-rate environment that does not provide enough yield for some institutional investors. These clients are keen to invest in illiquid assets, such as private equity and infrastructure.
“What we have seen is a desire for higher returns in what has been a low-return environment specifically in various fixed income or bonds,” he said.
“In this environment, we have seen a de facto increase in the risk that clients are taking in things like illiquid investments, private equity investments, infrastructure and private debt, those kind of investments were higher illiquidity results in incrementally higher returns.”
The Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, one of the largest sovereign wealth funds, said in its 2016 report that has gradually increased its exposure in direct private equity and private credit transactions, mainly in Asian markets and especially in China and India. The authority’s private equity department focused on structured equities owing to “their defensive characteristics.”
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'Worse than a prison sentence'
Marie Byrne, a counsellor who volunteers at the UAE government's mental health crisis helpline, said the ordeal the crew had been through would take time to overcome.
“It was worse than a prison sentence, where at least someone can deal with a set amount of time incarcerated," she said.
“They were living in perpetual mystery as to how their futures would pan out, and what that would be.
“Because of coronavirus, the world is very different now to the one they left, that will also have an impact.
“It will not fully register until they are on dry land. Some have not seen their young children grow up while others will have to rebuild relationships.
“It will be a challenge mentally, and to find other work to support their families as they have been out of circulation for so long. Hopefully they will get the care they need when they get home.”
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What is Financial Fair Play?
Introduced in 2011 by Uefa, European football’s governing body, it demands that clubs live within their means. Chiefly, spend within their income and not make substantial losses.
What the rules dictate?
The second phase of its implementation limits losses to €30 million (Dh136m) over three seasons. Extra expenditure is permitted for investment in sustainable areas (youth academies, stadium development, etc). Money provided by owners is not viewed as income. Revenue from “related parties” to those owners is assessed by Uefa's “financial control body” to be sure it is a fair value, or in line with market prices.
What are the penalties?
There are a number of punishments, including fines, a loss of prize money or having to reduce squad size for European competition – as happened to PSG in 2014. There is even the threat of a competition ban, which could in theory lead to PSG’s suspension from the Uefa Champions League.
10 tips for entry-level job seekers
- Have an up-to-date, professional LinkedIn profile. If you don’t have a LinkedIn account, set one up today. Avoid poor-quality profile pictures with distracting backgrounds. Include a professional summary and begin to grow your network.
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- Double check that you’ve highlighted relevant skills on your resume and LinkedIn profile.
- For most entry-level jobs, your resume will first be filtered by an applicant tracking system for keywords. Look closely at the description of the job you are applying for and mirror the language as much as possible (while being honest and accurate about your skills and experience).
- Keep your CV professional and in a simple format – make sure you tailor your cover letter and application to the company and role.
- Go online and look for details on job specifications for your target position. Make a list of skills required and set yourself some learning goals to tick off all the necessary skills one by one.
- Don’t be afraid to reach outside your immediate friends and family to other acquaintances and let them know you are looking for new opportunities.
- Make sure you’ve set your LinkedIn profile to signal that you are “open to opportunities”. Also be sure to use LinkedIn to search for people who are still actively hiring by searching for those that have the headline “I’m hiring” or “We’re hiring” in their profile.
- Prepare for online interviews using mock interview tools. Even before landing interviews, it can be useful to start practising.
- Be professional and patient. Always be professional with whoever you are interacting with throughout your search process, this will be remembered. You need to be patient, dedicated and not give up on your search. Candidates need to make sure they are following up appropriately for roles they have applied.
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